MAHR

Rights of Women in Islam : MAHR

In Islam, the mahr (dower) is a woman’s right, which becomes binding upon the husband once the marriage is contracted. It signifies a husband’s love and appreciation for his wife. There is no fixed amount of mahr in the Shariah. It should be given according to the financial status of the husband and according to the time and place. However, it should be reasonable and not too expensive.

The bride’s guardian and family should focus on the religious commitment and character of the suitor rather than asking for huge amounts of dower which burdens the youths who want to get married and protect themselves against temptations. It is a principle of the Shariah that the mahr should not be too expensive. It is wrong to declare large amount of mahr at the time of marriage to show off or to boast. Some time bride’s family put pressure on the groom and his family for a large amount of mahr so that they may show their pride to their relatives and friends boasting that their daughter was married for a big mahr. Sometimes the groom declares a big amount and secretly thinks that this is just a commitment on paper. People are often heard saying, “Write whatever you want, no one asks and no one pays.” This is playing a game with the rules of Allah. Muslims should only commit to what they are really capable of paying and what they intend to pay. It is haram to enjoy relations with a wife and then deny her the mahr when she demands.”

The Prophet s.a.w. never demanded huge amounts of dower when giving his daughters in marriage. He is also reported to have said, “The best woman is the one whose mahr is the easiest to pay.” (Reported by al-Haythami)

Allah says: “And give unto the women, (whom ye marry) free gift of their marriage portions…” (An-Nisa’: 4)

Allah also says: “And those of whom ye seek content (by marrying them), give unto them their portions as a duty…” (An-Nisa’: 24)

The Prophet s.a.w. said: “The best of marriage is that which is made easiest.” (Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan,  Sahih al-Jaami’, 3300)

And Prophet s.a.w. said: “The best of mahrs is the simplest (or most affordable).” (Narrated by al-Haakim and al-Bayhaqi, Sahih al-Jaami’, 3279)

Mahr is very important in Islamic marriage. Allah has used the word “faridah” for it. It means something fixed, decided and obligatory. It is obligatory on the husband to pay mahr to his wife unless she expressly by her own will without any pressure forgives him or returns the amount of mahr to him. Mahr belongs to the wife and it is to be given to her only. It is not the property of her parents or her guardian. No one can forgive the husband to pay the Mahr except the wife herself or, in case she did not go to her husband and the marriage ended without consummation, then in that situation her guardian can also forgive the mahr on her behalf. If a husband dies without paying mahr to his wife, it will be an outstanding debt on him and it must be paid before the distribution of his inheritance among his heirs.

Mahr is not a bride price. It is a woman’s right and it signifies a husband’s love and appreciation for his wife. In the Quran it is called “sadaqah” which means a token of friendship. It is also called “nihlah” which means “a nice gift or present.” Mahr also signifies a husband’s commitment to take care of his wife’s financial needs (nafaqah).

According to the Shariah, the mahr should also be reasonable. There is no fixed amount of mahr in the Shariah. It should be given according to the financial status of the husband and according to the time and place.

The Prophet s.a.w. set the highest example for his ummah in that regard, so that a clear understanding of the basic principles would be implanted in society, and a spirit of simplicity would spread among the people.

Abu Dawood (2125) and al-Nasaa’i (3375) narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that ‘Ali said: “I married Fatima r.a. and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.), let me go ahead with the marriage.’ He said: ‘Give her something.’ I said: ‘I do not have anything.’ He said: ‘Where is your Hutami shield?’ I said, ‘I have it with me.’ He said, ‘Give it to her.’” (Sahih al-Nasaa’i, 3160)

This was the mahr of Fatima r.a., the daughter of the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.), the leader of the women of Paradise.

This reinforces the fact that in Islam, the mahr is not something that is sought for its own sake.

Ibn Maajah (1887) narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: “Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honour and dignity in this world or a sign of piety before Allah, then Muhammad  s.a.w. would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve uqiyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says, ‘You cost me everything I own, and caused me a great deal of hardship’.” (Sahih Ibn Maajah, 1532)

Hadhrat Umar (R.A) said: “Do ask a high dowry for your women. If (doing so) was a token of honour in this world or a source of piety, by Allah, then your Rasul s.a.w. should have been more worthy of it (i.e. of stipulating a high Mahr for his daughters).” [Tirmidhi Pg. 21]

“Do not go to extremes” means do not exaggerate in increasing the dowry. “A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her” means, until he begins to hate her when he is still paying off the debts incurred because of this mahr because it is too hard for him, or whenever he thinks about the matter.

Muslim narrated in his Sahih (no. 1426) that Abu Salamah ibn ‘Abd al-Rahman said: “I asked ‘Aa’ishah the wife of the Prophet s.a.w. what the mahr given by the Prophet s.a.w. was. She said: ‘The mahr that he gave to his wives was twelve uqiyah and a nashsh.’ A nashsh is half of an uqiyah. That was five hundred dirhams. This was the mahr given by the Prophet s.a.w. to his wives.”

The scholar Ibn Khaldoon said:

“The consensus of the scholars from the beginning of Islam and the time of the Sahaabah and the Taabi’een has been that the shar’i dirham is that of which ten coins weigh seven mithqaals of gold. The uqiyah is forty dirhams of this type, and on this basis it is seven-tenths of a dinar… All of these amounts are agreed upon by scholarly consensus (ijmaa’).” (Muqaddimah Ibn Khaldoon, p. 263)

Based on this, the weight of a dirham in grams is 2.975 grams.

So the mahr of the wives of the Prophet s.a.w. was 500 x 2.975 = 1487.5 grams of silver.

So, if the price of one gram of pure silver is approximately 1 riyal, so the mahr in riyals is approximately 1487.5 riyals.

May Allah guide you and me to the straight path and direct us to that which pleases Him, Ameen.

Knowing ALLAH

Who Is ALLAH?

Allah the Almighty Himself answers this question in His saying,

Allah - there is no deity except Him, the Ever-Living, the Sustainer of [all] existence. Neither drowsiness overtakes Him nor sleep. To Him belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth. Who is it that can intercede with Him except by His permission? He knows what is [presently] before them and what will be after them, and they encompass not a thing of His knowledge except for what He wills. His Kursi extends over the heavens and the earth, and their preservation tires Him not. And He is the Most High, the Most Great. [Al-Baqarah: 255]

Allah Almighty introduces Himself in the above mentioned verse as follows:

-        Allah - there is no deity except Him (Allahu la IIah Ila Howa):

Allah informs us that He is the One true god who deserves to be worshiped by all His creatures.

-         Ever-Living, the Sustainer of [all] existence (Al-Hay Al-Qayum):

Allah is the Ever-Living, He is eternal while all his creatures are mortal. He is the Sustainer of all that exist who are in need of His help and support.

-          Neither drowsiness overtakes Him nor sleep

(La ta'khuzhu sinatun wa la naoum): it means that Allah is above imperfection, inattention or distraction. He is the Ever-watchful over everything and everyone and nothing can escape His knowledge. Allah is Perfect and Eternal He is never overtaken by drowsiness which is light sleep or even sleep.

-          To Him belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth (Lahu ma fi as-samawati wa ma fi al-ard): it informs that all beings are His servants and all of them are under His Might and Dominance.

-        Who is it that can intercede with Him except by His permission?

(man tha allathi yashfa'u 'indahu illa bi ithnih): this verse shows Allah's greatness, Majesty and Gloriousness where none can intercede with Him without His permission.

-         He knows what is [presently] before them and what will be after them (Ya'lam ma bayn aydihim wa ma khalfahum):

it shows that Allah's knowledge encompasses everything.

-        and they encompass not a thing of His knowledge except for what He wills (wa la yuhitun bi shay'in min ilmihi illa bima sha'):

it means that none can know anything except for that which Allah the Almighty taught and revealed to him.

-         His Kursi extends over the heavens and the earth

(wa si'a kursiuhu as-samawt wa al-ard):

it means that His dominance and throne encompasses everything.

-        and their preservation tires Him not

(wa la ya'uduhu hifzuhuma): it means that nothing in the heavens or earth or in between can over burden or bother Allah Who protects them all. Rather, it is so easy for Him since He is the Sustainer for all, the ever-Watchful, nothing in the world that exist escapes His knowledge, all things stand in humiliation and need before Him and He is Free of need, the Praiseworthy, He des what He wills and He is not questioned about what He does, but they will be questioned. He is the Omnipotent, The Suffienct, ever-Watchful, The Exalted, the Greatest and there is no god deserves worship except Him.

-         And He is the Most High, the Most Great (wa howa al-'Ali al-'Azeem): Allah is High above everything He is the Greatest.

There are various ways through which man can familiarize himself with the surroundings, beings, natural and unnatural phenomena. Each one of these has certain way to realize it. 

For example, when one wants to acquaint himself with a person he does not know, one may get closer to that person, show love and respect. There is even a formula of respect and reverence used by different languages to show respect in addressing people or one can introduce himself to that person either directly or indirectly and so on and so forth. However, the best way to know someone is to listen to him talking and it is the perfect method when it comes to knowing Allah. 

This is the first thing I can introduce to our readers who wants to know Allah. I do not need to bring evidence on His existence, praise Him in poems or anything about Him since Allah Almighty and the Greatest introduced Himself in His noble verse.

This verse is named "the verse of the Throne "Ayat al-Kursi" is the greatest verse of the noble Qur'an. One should ponder it, listen to Allah talking about Himself and try to go deeper in knowing Him.

The Seven Shades

HADITH SAHIH BUKHARI 629

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet s.a.w.  said, "Allah will give shade to seven,

on the Day when there will be no shade but His.

These Seven Person Are :-

1          A just ruler

2          A youth who has been brought up in the worship of 

            Allah (i.e. worships Allah sincerely from childhood),

3          A man whose heart is attached to the mosques 

            (i.e. to pray the compulsory prayers in the mosque 

            in congregation),

4          Two persons who love each other only for Allah's

            sake and they meet and part in Allah's cause only,

5          A man who refuses the call of a charming woman

            of noble birth for illicit intercourse with her and says:

            "I Fear ALLAH"

6          A man who gives charitable gifts so secretly that his 

            left hand does not know what his right hand has given

            (i.e. nobody knows how much he has given in charity)

7          A person who remembers Allah in seclusion and 

            his eyes are then flooded with tears."

Awal Muharram Serta Pengertiannya

PENGENALAN AWAL MUHARRAM

MUHARAM adalah bulan pertama dalam Sistem Kalendar Islam (Hijriah). Pada asasnya, Muharam membawa maksud 'diharamkan' atau 'dipantang', iaitu Allah SWT melarang melakukan peperangan atau pertumpahan darah. Namun demikian larangan ini ditamatkan setelah pembukaan Makkah (Al Baqarah: 91).

Sejak pemansuhan itu, umat Islam boleh melaksanakan tugas dan ibadat harian tanpa terikat lagi dengan larangan berkenaan. Rasulullah s.a.w telah menamakan bulan Muharram sebagai bulan Allah (shahrullahi).

Sandaran yang dilakukan oleh Baginda s.a.w kepada Allah s.w.t lantaran kemuliaan dan kelebihan bulan ini kerana sesungguhnya Allah s.w.t tidak merujukkan kepadaNya melainkan oleh golongan khowas (terkhas) di kalangan makhluk - makhlukNya.

Daripada Al-Hassan Al-Basri rahimahumullah sesungguhnya Allah s.w.t telah membuka lembaran tahun baru di dalam takwim Islam dengan bulan Muharram. Tidaklah kedapatan bulan yang lebih mulia dalam takwim Islam di sisi Allah s.w.t itu selepas bulan Ramadhan melainkan bulan Muharram. Ianya dinamakan bulan Allah yang khas disebabkan besarnya kehormatannya.

Doa Awal Tahun

Maksudnya:

Allah SWT berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad SAW, ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabat baginda dan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka. Wahai Tuhan, Engkaulah yang kekal abadi, yang qadim. yang awal dan ke atas kelebihanMu yang besar dan kemurahanMu yang melimpah dan ini adalah tahun baru yang telah muncul di hadapan kami. Kami memohon pemeliharaan dariMu di sepanjang tahun ini dari syaitan dan pembantu-pembantunya dan tentera-tenteranya dan juga pertolongan terhadap diri yang diperintahkan melakukan kejahatan dan usaha yang mendekatkanku kepadaMu Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha Agung dan Maha Mulia. Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha pengasih dari mereka yang mengasihi dan Allah berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad. Nabi yang ummi dan ke atas ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabatnya dan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka.

Doa Akhir Tahun

Maksudnya:

Allah SWT berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad SAW, ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabat baginda dan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka. Wahai Tuhan, apa yang telah aku lakukan dalam tahun ini daripada perkara-perkara yang Engkau tegah daripada aku melakukannya dan aku belum bertaubat daripadanya. Sedangkan Engkau tidak redha dan tidak melupakannya. Dan aku telah melakukannya di dalam keadaan di mana Engkau berupaya untuk menghukumku, tetapi Engkau mengilhamkanku dengan taubat selepas keberanianku melakukan dosa-dosa itu semuanya. Sesungguhnya aku memohon keampunanMu, maka ampunilah aku. Dan tidaklah aku melakukan yang demikian daripada apa yang Engkau redhainya dan Engkau menjanjikanku dengan pahala atas yang sedemikian itu. Maka aku memohon kepadaMu. Wahai Tuhan! Wahai yang Maha Pemurah! Wahai Yang Maha Agung dan wahai Yang Maha Mulia agar Engkau menerima taubat itu dariku dan janganlah Engkau menghampakan harapanku kepadaMu Wahai Yang Maha Pemurah. Dan Allah berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad, ke atas ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabatnya dan mengurniakan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka.

PERISTIWA PENTING BULAN MUHARRAM

1. 1 Muharam - Khalifah Umar Al-Khattab menetapkan adalah hari pertama bagi setiap tahun baru Islam (Kalendar Hijriah).
2. 10 Muharam - Dinamakan juga hari 'Asyura'. Pada hari itu banyak terjadi peristiwa penting yang mencerminkan kegemilangan bagi perjuangan yang gigih dan tabah bagi menegakkan keadilah dan kebenaran.

Pada 10 Muharam juga telah berlaku:

1. Nabi Adam bertaubat kepada Allah.
2. Nabi Idris diangkat oleh Allah ke langit.
3. Nabi Nuh diselamatkan Allah keluar dari perahunya sesudah bumi ditenggelamkan selama enam bulan.
4. Nabi Ibrahim diselamatkan Allah dari pembakaran Raja Namrud.
5. Allah menurunkan kitab Taurat kepada Nabi Musa.
6. Nabi Yusuf dibebaskan dari penjara.
7. Penglihatan Nabi Yaakob yang kabur dipulihkkan Allah.
8. Nabi Ayub dipulihkan Allah dari penyakit kulit yang dideritainya.
9. Nabi Yunus selamat keluar dari perut ikan paus setelah berada di dalamnya selama 40 hari 40 malam.
10. Laut Merah terbelah dua untuk menyelamatkan Nabi Musa dan pengikutnya dari tentera Firaun.
11. Kesalahan Nabi Daud diampuni Allah.
12. Nabi Sulaiman dikurniakan Allah kerajaan yang besar.
13. Hari pertama Allah menciptakan alam.
14. Hari Pertama Allah menurunkan rahmat.
15. Hari pertama Allah menurunkan hujan.
16. Allah menjadikan 'Arasy.
17. Allah menjadikan Luh Mahfuz.
18. Allah menjadikan alam.
19. Allah menjadikan Malaikat Jibril.
20. Nabi Isa diangkat ke langit.

My Sonata

Mom your love is fuel that enable a normal human being do the impossibleMom the ribbons of your love are woven around my heart








MOM
Mom you are my sunshine light up my lifeMom you are my angel always by my sideMom you are my superstar the one that i adoreMom you are my fairy always keep to fulfill all my wishesMom you are my inspiration with your advice and your lessonsMom you are my queen no one can replace you in my heartMom thank you for your unconditional love,all happiness that you gave me and everything you had done for meMom no words can describe my love for youand how i appreciate youMom without your prays, your dua's and your blessings i'm nothingMom my paradise are lies at your feetMom May Allah Always Bless you for everythings-InsyaALLAHMom from bottom of my heart i wanna say I Love You MomMom Honestly your daughter ska

ALLAH Say :- 

"We have enjoined on the human beings to be kind to his parents. In pain their mother bore them and in pain did she give them birth." (Surah Ahqaf 46:15)

"Respect the womb that bore you" (Surah An-Nisa 4:1)

"You have to be kind to your parents"(Surah A'nam 6:151)

Hadith:-

Abu Hurairah r.a, reported: A person came to Prophet s.a.w. and asked,

''Who among people is most deserving of fine treatment?"

Prophet s.a.w. said "Your mother".

He asked again, "Who next?"

The Prophet s.a.w. said again "Your mother".

He asked again, "Who next?"

The Prophet s.a.w. replied again "Your mother".

He again asked, "Then who?

"The Prophet s.a.w. said "Then your father".

(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Shahadah My Iman

***SHAHADAH***

"I testify that there is nothing worthy of worship except ALLAH, and I testify that Muhammad s.a.w. is The Messenger of ALLAH"

*As Long As Heart Beat "Say SHAHADAH"*
.
The Shahadah (Arabic: شهادة) is the First Pillar of Islam.

The Shahadah is the Islamic creed,

it means "to testify" or "to bear witness" in Arabic.

The Shahadah is the Muslim declaration of believe in the Oneness of GOD (ALLAH) and in Muhammad (s.a.w.)as HIS final Prophet. 

Recitation of Shahadah is the most important of the 

Five Pillars of Islam for Muslim and is performed (said) daily.

(One Part Of Iman)

Ayatul Kursi

One of the greatest gifts that we have been given by Allah تعالى  is that of AYATUL KURSI

It is verse 255 in Surah Al-Baqarah

The Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. (peace be upon him) said:

1- “Whoever recites Ayatul Kursi immediately after each prescribed (obligatory) prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entering Paradise except death.” [An-Nasa’i and Ibn Hibban]

2- The Prophet s.a.w. described it as the greatest ayah in the Quran. [Muslim]

3- “The one who recites Ayatul Kursi after the conclusion of an obligatory prayer, he is under the Care of Allah تعالى until the next prayer commences.” [Tabarani].

Soneta Cinta Ku

CINTA .....

bicara tentang cinta,..... 

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

ada yang sudah punya cinta

ada yang baru berfikiran cinta

ada yang tercari-cari cinta

ada yang baru mengenali cinta

ada yang melamun,dilamun cinta

ada yang di alam cinta

ada yang putus cinta

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

tapi yang pasti setiap jawapan berbeda

cinta itu perasaan

cinta itu cinta

cinta itu kasih

cinta itu sayang

cinta itu sahabat

cinta itu air mata

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

banyak persoalan cinta

apa itu cinta

ada apa dengan cinta

bagaimana itu cinta

dimana itu cinta

kenapa itu cinta

bilakah cinta itu

siapakah cinta itu

berapakah cinta itu

kemanakah cinta itu

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

bermacam cinta ada

cinta ALLAH

cinta Rasul

cinta diri

cinta ayah ibu

cinta keluarga

cinta saudara

cinta sahabat

cinta pasangan

cinta anak

cinta kekasih

cinta negara

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

persoalan pada diri

bersediakah untuk CINTA

ikhlaskah untuk CINTA

jihadkah diri pada CINTA

redhakah diri pada CINTA

taatkah diri pada CINTA

zuhudkah diri pada CINTA

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

bermulanya cinta

terkisahnya cinta

wujudnya cinta

terciptanya Kekasih

cinta ALLAH pada Kekasih-NYA

cinta Kekasih pada CINTA-nya

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

dalam mencari mihrab cinta

ku temui kiblat cinta ku

ikhlaskan hati mencintai

dan cintailah kerana ALLAH

sesungguhnya itulah Cinta

terungkai sudah segala soal

pasti tiada lagi persoalan hati

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

kerana terlalu asyik dengan CINTA

bilamana bibir dan hati bertasbih CINTA

dimana ayat-ayat cinta memenuhi setiap ruang

merdu dan indahnya kidung cinta dalam Kalam MU

siang dimekari manisnya senyum penuh kesyukuran

mutiara shahdu penuh kenikmatan menemani malam 
nur kasih CINTA menyinari seluruh hidup yang fana 
pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

itu jawapan untuk cintaku

tajdid cintaku dalam menyintai MU

ku bersyukur pada MU

kerana nikmatnya cinta yang KAU beri

jangan KAU sirnakan cinta ini

kekalkan dalam hidupku dan matiku

sesungguhnya Cinta pada MU

adalah yang terindah dalam hidupku

InsyaALLAH - Amin

pasti akan bertanya "apa itu cinta"

ini nukilan kisah dan maksud cintaku

seorang aku yang bernama ska

dalam mencari redha safa cinta NYA